{"id":444,"date":"2021-01-04T13:55:26","date_gmt":"2021-01-04T13:55:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.gayscene.org\/news\/?p=444"},"modified":"2021-02-04T13:55:32","modified_gmt":"2021-02-04T13:55:32","slug":"gay-bdsm-limits-for-kinky-beginners","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.gayscene.org\/news\/2021\/01\/04\/gay-bdsm-limits-for-kinky-beginners\/","title":{"rendered":"Gay BDSM Limits for Kinky Beginners"},"content":{"rendered":"

Keen to explore the BDSM kink, but not sure how to get started? If you\u2019re new to this erotic fetish, it\u2019s important that you understand the basic ground rules. You can find someone to help you with that on the biggest and best gay forum<\/a> online www.gayscene.org<\/p>\n

Gay BDSM<\/strong><\/p>\n

Having limits and boundaries is an essential part of BDSM. Without identifying these factors you\u2019re not keeping yourself safe, and you may also find that experienced kinksters don\u2019t feel inclined to play Master and Servant games with a gay guy who boasts that he has no limits.<\/p>\n

Discovering Your BDSM Limits<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re a kinky BDSM beginner, there are a number of ways in which you can discover your likes and dislikes. Once you know what turns you on and off, you can define your limits.<\/p>\n

Role-Play Games allow you to explore situations and scenarios that can be based on real life or complete fantasy. You can test your limits by engaging in online or phone communication with someone who is willing to play along with you. Pay attention to how you feel when something you don\u2019t like is mentioned. Does it make you uncomfortable or curious?<\/p>\n

Online Gay Sex<\/strong><\/p>\n

Self Play offers you an opportunity to understand what turns you on, on a deeper level. While the options may be somewhat limited, you can still discover that there are aspects of eroticism that you didn\u2019t even know you liked. Try an exercise like edging (orgasm denial), or tasting your own spunk.<\/p>\n

Soft Limits Play is an activity that you can enjoy with a partner. It\u2019s a sort of try and test scenario, when you can alter and adjust the limits as you explore and play. You may discover that you feel comfortable taking more than you initially expected, or that you don’t like something at all. It\u2019s essential that you communicate with your partner throughout this experience, and stop if you\u2019re asked to.<\/p>\n

Gay BDSM Hard Limits<\/strong><\/p>\n

The limits that must never be pushed are known as \u2018hard limits\u2019 on the kink scene. These limits include a variety of things that you don\u2019t like. Perhaps you hate being tickled or spanked, or don\u2019t like the idea of anal penetration. You decide what you will and won\u2019t accept by defining your hard limits that others must respect.<\/p>\n

Gay BDSM Play Safe<\/strong><\/p>\n

Never participate in a BDSM activity, if you feel you’re being coerced. ‘No’ is a powerful word and you should use it.<\/p>\n

Always discuss your BDSM limits with a Dominant before you give your Submissive consent. Use your safe word if you don\u2019t feel comfortable at any time.<\/p>\n

Experienced kinksters are respectful of the BDSM community, and will never overstep the mark to push beyond your limits.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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