Practical Safety Tips for Meeting Men Online
The internet has been transformative in the way we communicate with each other and, inevitable how we find love and sex. Great Online Gay Forums like GayScene.Org are the heart of the community of finding people who are into what you are into and that is a great empowering thing. However as with most things in life you do have to ensure you follow some simple advice when meeting people online just in case, they are not what they say they are. Here are a some practical online safety tips:
Online, people can be whomever they want to be, and quite happily string you along – until you meet up, and then realise that something isn’t quite right with the situation. It really is best to go with your gut instinct if you’re ever put into that position. If something doesn’t seem right, remove yourself from the situation. Of course, as with everything, there are some precautions that you can take to minimise the possibility of this happening – and this is what we are going to address here.
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There are many sex, dating and hook-up websites out there, and those which tend to have a paid membership, or alternatively, those wherein user profiles are ranked by others, can give you a general indication of whether someone is really who they say they are online. Many of these users will be looking for casual sex, rather than a relationship, so it stands to reason that you should make your profile as accurate as it possibly can be.
Be Straightforward & Truthful
Never pretend to be someone you are not, be truthful about your height and weight, etc. Remember, you are possibly going to meet up, so there really isn’t any point in making yourself that little bit younger, slimmer and so forth. If you’re meeting on a one-to-one basis for the first time, then it’s always best to arrange a populated meeting place – a bar or club is great; not only does this give you the chance to get to know the other person over a few drinks, it also gives you the opportunity to flee the situation if required, or strike up a conversation with someone totally random if you are feeling uncomfortable in any way.
Have a Plan
Tell a close friend where you are going, when and who you are going to meet, or even have a text message on standby that you can (surreptitiously, if need be) send, so they can then call you and you can make your escape. It sounds like the oldest trick in the book – and to be honest it probably is – but that’s because it is tried, tested and known to work!
Hook-ups are great fun – but there’s never any sense of putting yourself in danger for them, as there are, after all, plenty of great guys out there who are actually genuine and sincere. Don’t drink too much alcohol or take anything which can skew your perspective on someone and the situation.