BDSM Wording – Danger Words & Safe Words

For every BDSM game, there needs to be rules and the simplest of rules include consent and words that can be used throughout the game to change the game without ruining it. Safe and danger words are a common way to talk to the other person in the BDSM game with ore arranged words so they know what you mean.

Safe Words & Danger Words

It is all too easy in BDSM play, and even role play in general when you want to scream stop, stop – but what you actually mean is please don’t stop! This can be confusing and ruin the mood so prearranged words are extremely useful. Danger words and safe words are two types of these words that are used commonly in the BDSM community.

Safe words have been around forever and they’re a must if you want to push boundaries with your partner and explore previously unknown fantasies or take things further than ever before. Safe words represent one of the core elements of sex – consent. This is why it’s vital to have your exit strategy planned if you need it; no one should carry on doing something that they’ve changed their minds about.

How to use a SafeWord

In a nutshell – it’s designed to take you, quite literally, to safety. If you’re planning to change things up in the bedroom and perhaps try role play, bondage, experimenting with whips and chains, then you should have a conversation with your partner beforehand to decide on a word or phrase which means “Hey, I’m not comfortable with this now, you need to stop.” It’s very important to discuss the concept fully with your partner so that you’re both guaranteed to be on the same page when it comes to your bedroom antics and you can relax in the knowledge that you have all bases covered. You may even want to incorporate the words ‘No’ and ‘Stop’ into your bedroom play without meaning them.

The word you pick doesn’t need to be overly complex, but it does need to be a word which stands out enough to be instantly recognisable, but equally not part of everyday conversation. The place name of where you met or first had sex, or the name of your favourite restaurant are both along the lines that you should go down when deciding on your safe word.

How to use a Danger Word

Imagine this: you’re sitting at work and thinking about the sexual fun you’d like to indulge in later. A particularly naughty scenario that you’re both familiar with pops into your mind and you want to suggest this to your partner. Send them a text message! Perfect. But typing out instructions is hardly in the spirit of the game and it’s quite likely to knock your libido down a peg or two. But this doesn’t need to happen. Like with a safe word, discuss the concept of danger words with your partner so you both have a way of signalling what you would like to do without having to spell it out. If you’d like to have a sure-fire way to kick start your naughty antics without a few minutes of discussion first, then choose a danger word which lets your partner know exactly what’s on your mind and what you want to do about it.

Safe words and danger words – bring your imagination into the bedroom and give in to your basest desires. To find kinky guys who like to play just like you post your gay personal on www.gayscene.org today and start planning those safe words!