Tips for Meeting Up IRL After Chatting on a Gay Forum

In real life (IRL) meetings can be a bit daunting after chatting online on a gay sex forum like gayscene.org especially if it is either your first time or you haven’t done it for a while and with all the lockdown restrictions recently, even those men who have done it a lot may be out of practice!

So here are some tips on how to catch up with someone in the real world who you have found on an online gay forum like gayscene.org

Remember the Basics

Remember that the hardest part is actually showing up and breaking the ice, you already know you have similar interests and want similar things so try not to be nervous. Always tell someone where you are going and check in with them regularly so you are safe.

Picking a place to meet? Some people like to choose somewhere familiar to them, as this helps to settle any pre-meet-up nerves, but others may prefer totally new and neutral ground to the both of you. This should be discussed between the two of you. Bars are an excellent option – they allow you to relax, chat and get to know each other a little better, but they also allow you an easy escape if the person you meet doesn’t live up to your expectations. Trust your instincts! If the situation doesn’t feel right, and the person makes you feel uneasy in any way, then drawing the meet-up to a close is far easier in a public setting, as confrontation is less likely, and you can do it in a civilised manner. So, on the rare chance that things don’t go to plan, always be prepared with a back-up strategy.

Meeting is Exciting

Let’s get back to the fun aspects of meeting someone for the first time after chatting on an online gay forum. Planning is the key to a smooth night. Think about what you know about this other person and plan around similar interests, so that you both have things to share and talk about. Maybe plan a movie visit, or some dinner, somewhere where you just get to hang out, this relieves an element of tension and removes a level of expectation from both of you.

With any meeting or date, you want to make a great first impression, so plan what you’re going to wear prior to the evening. Try it on, make changes, play around for a few days beforehand – looking good makes you feel good! Take personal hygiene into consideration. You don’t know what might happen during the evening, so personal grooming is important; smelling great always makes a good impression, but don’t overdo it – you still want your natural musk shining through!

Look After Yourself

This is the time to remind you that being prepared really does pay off – so make sure you play safe and bring your own condoms to the proceedings. Of course, some people meet up for casual sex only. When this is the case, the emphasis should always be on safety. Meeting and visiting a local BDSM club or gay sauna is a good way to discern that your playmate is who they say they are, and that your play remains happy and consensual, until you get to know them better. Remember if you are not happy about anything when you meet them just politely leave, you never have to see them again!

Choose a Gay Escort for Ease

If the thought of meeting up with someone is a little daunting then consider booking a date with a Gay Escort, they are extremely skilled and are there just for you, or you could try out Gay Cams which are easy to use and convenient wherever you are. However you wish to play remember to relax – this is ultimately all about having a good time!